The secret way to a healthy and lasting marriage is to sustaining joy and happiness in your relationship. In respective of what challenges are thrown into your lives as husband and wife, you have to keep the flame of joy and laughter in your marriage.
It’s okay to experience sadness and crying times – marital problems are not unusual anyway. However, make sure that at the end of the day, you and your wife still sleep together wearing a beautiful smile.
If you truly love your wife, you will not do anything that can hurt her and make her cry. Instead, you will do your best to cheer her up every single day.
Here are 16 ways to make your dearest wife happy:
1. Make yourself a happy person.
The first step to making your wife happy is to produce happiness within yourself. You cannot make your wife happy if you cannot even make yourself happy. Thus, learn how to be a jolly person. Be a more positive and proactive person. Overcome the things of the past that make you a sad person, like your past mistakes. Infect your wife with happiness and positivity, not with sadness and negativity.
2. Prepare her breakfast.
Preparing someone’s breakfast requires sacrifice to wake up early in the cold morning. If you rise early and prepare a healthy and delicious breakfast for your wife, she will surely feel blessed and happy. If you don’t know how to cook, then start learning how. The Internet is full of recipes and video tutorials.
3. Give her a happy environment.
Always be mindful of your wife’s environment. Is it getting boring or gloomy? Why not play cool and happy songs to brighten up her day? Is your house or room messy and dirty? Why not clean it up and make it cozy? Do the people around her make her sad and stressed? Why not bring her to a beach or any place that will help her relax and chill out?
4. Tell her how beautiful she is.
We will not marry our own wife if we were not struck by their charm and beauty. Always remind your wife how beautiful she is. Always remind her how perfect that part of her body that attracts you most. And of course, do not look at other women like a hungry wolf. Keep your eyes only at your lovely wife.
5. Don’t lie to her.
Fulfill your words and promises. Give her what you have promised, whether it’s a simple gift, the time that the two of you agreed to meet in a certain place, or the promise you’ve made to change yourself for the better. Never break your wife’s trust in you.
6. Be loyal to her.
Your wife will be truly happy if she will be confident that she is your only one. Hence never ever cheat or even attempt to do it. Don’t give the devil an opportunity to tempt you and destroy your marriage. Give your wife your obvious loyalty so she will never be insecure or jealous of any other woman.
7. Trust her.
It’s not fun to be accused of cheating, being a bad woman, being an irresponsible person, a liar, or any other false allegations, especially if there is no evidence. If you do this to your wife, it will frustrate her and even torture her mind.
If you really want to make your wife happy, show her that you trust her. Make her feel that she is trusted. The truth will actually come out. As long as you have no proof that she is lying or she cannot be trusted, don’t stop trusting and loving her. Remember that you will not gain from worrying and having false doubts.
8. Give her all your money.
Surrendering all your hard-earned income and money makes your wife happy for many reasons. One reason is that it shows that you trust her. Another reason is that it gives her the assurance that you are only spending your money on her and your children, not on other women and other things beyond her knowledge.
9. Learn to love and take care of yourself.
Your wife’s duty is not only to take care of your kids but also to take care of you. She is always hoping and praying that her husband will be healthy and well. Imagine if you are that kind of husband who is always drinking alcohol, smoking, and gorging on unhealthy foods. Definitely, your wife will be sad.
To make her happy, start loving and taking care of yourself. Stop your vices which are making your body and soul weak. Always take care when you travel. Avoid being a hot-tempered person who always likes fighting with strangers. Stop making your wife worried! Give her peace of mind.
10. Forgive her.
Don’t be harsh on your wife. Forgive her if she has made mistakes, especially if she is sincerely asking for your forgiveness. If it’s just small mistakes or petty things, forgive her even before she tells you she is sorry. Remember that when there is no hatred and resentment in your heart, you will not start a fight to disrupt the good vibes in your relationship.
11. Be humble and admit your own mistakes.
Don’t blame your wife for your own mistakes. And don’t do foolish things to make her feel guilty just to put the blame on her. Be a real man by admitting your own mistakes. Be humble and apologize sincerely. If you will show humility, your wife will experience felicity.
12. Make her feel valued and appreciated.
It’s not easy to be a responsible wife, much more a responsible mother and light of your home. Perhaps, your wife doesn’t have an income-generating job and she only stays full time at home. But remember that a housewife is a great job, and taking care of your house, your children and you is a lot of works.
Make your wife feel how important she is that your life depends on her. Appreciate everything that she does for you and your children. Give her random gifts and thank you messages to make her smile after a tiring day.
13. Respect her.
Don’t make her feel that she is losing herself. Respect her uniqueness as a person and as a woman. Don’t force her to play billiard and stop her to play badminton if her passion is the latter. Don’t force her to watch Avengers and deprive her of watching the Notebook if she likes romantic than fantasy films. And lastly, don’t compel her to have sex if she’s tired and doesn’t like to do it at the moment.
14. Be responsible.
Honor your wife. Imagine if you’re a drunkard or a lazy husband. Imagine if you are a cheater? Imagine if you are an irresponsible father to her children. What will your wife tell to her friends and relatives? Do not shame your wife but make her feel blessed to have you as her husband and a father to her children.
Be a responsible husband by giving your wife her needs, such as money, care, love, affection, trust, and understanding. Be a responsible father to your kids by being a role model and working harder to build a brighter future for them.
15. Love your parents-in-law.
Your wife won’t be happy if you have conflicts with her parents and siblings. Hence, do your best to not only win the heart of your wife but also win the hearts of her family. Though you and your wife are already living together in a separate house from her parents, don’t forget to visit them regularly to establish a harmonious relationship with them. Make them feel that their family is growing bigger, not shrinking and fading.
16. Love her through thick and thin.
Last but not least, fulfill your marriage vow to her and keep it for life. Always be with her through thick and thin, in sickness and health, and in troubles and celebrations. Don’t leave her for another woman just because she is not already satisfying you in bed. Don’t call it a quit just because your family is already financially broke.
Whatever the problem is, you and your wife should always be a great team to overcome any problems and challenges. Make your wife truly happy by finding joy in practicing patience amidst all marital problems.
Love your wife as you love yourself. If you will learn to love yourself by nurturing it with good virtues, such as patience, truthfulness, kindness, compassion, understanding, faithfulness, and self-control, you will not find it hard to also love your wife. This is because you will do to your wife what you will want to do to yourself. You will want your wife to experience the joy of loving and being loved. You will want to avoid hurting your wife as you hurt yourself. And this is how the two of you will cherish your marriage together… for life and even forever.