Picture this: you’re in your room with the air conditioner on full blast, the lights are turned off, and there are about five blankets wrapped around you. Your eyes are sagging and puffy from crying for the third night in a row, there’s a half-finished pint of chocolate in your arms, a sitcom playing on your laptop, and your phone buzzing with all the unread messages from last week.
Yes, folks, this is how a breakup looks like. It’s not pretty, is it? But then, you suddenly stand up with this new found feeling of purpose in your chest. You can’t be like this forever, so how do you forget your ex and move on? Luckily for you, we have the eight best ways to do just that:
1. Throw away the stuff he gave you.
Do a survey around your room and pick out every single thing that he gave you and throw it out. Even the receipts of the first ever movie that you saw together, take it out and chuck it down the bin! The relationship is over so there’s no point clinging to things that will only remind you of the past
Although it’s hard and even nearly impossible to do this, you have to do it. You need to learn how to let things go because sometimes it’s better for you in the long run even if it will hurt a bit in the start. This is your first step on your journey to moving on.
2. Delete all your pictures of him.
After throwing all his gifts in the trash, open your buzzing phone, and finally read those messages from last week. After that, go to your phone’s gallery and delete your pictures of him and the two of you together.
It may be tempting to keep those but you will only hurt yourself further during the process. If there’s still anything that reminds you of him in your room, your phone, or even your mind, you will not be able to move on.
3. Don’t lock yourself in your room.
Loneliness is a killer so please don’t lock yourself up in your room. Open your windows and take a good look outside. The world moves on without you so you have to keep up with it! You can’t be stuck in your room moping forever until crows turn white.
Take a long hot shower, as much as you need, dress in yourself in the most comfortable way, and then go outside. You don’t know where to go? That’s the best part! Why not start at that store you’ve always wanted to go to?
4. Try picking up a hobby.
Now that you’ve got all this free time, you have an excuse to pick up a new hobby! Pick your dusty paintbrushes, take up knitting, try out martial arts, or even take a Spanish class. Whatever you want to do, go do it, this is your time to make yourself a better person than before.
This is also the best way to keep your mind occupied and away from the person who broke your heart. The more your time is filled the better and easier it is for you to move on.
5. Fill your time with exercise.
What’s the best way to get back up from a break-up? Having a great body of course! Don’t let this sad situation get you down and tempt you to binge-eat all your favorite foods. Instead, look at this as an opportunity for you to bloom and become an even better person.
Besides, it’s already proven that exercise helps you release hormones called endorphins which will make you naturally happier! The best thing is that after a few months of push-ups, you’re rocking a great bod, and you see your ex down the street, you’ll be able to strut your stuff with confidence!
6. Think about the bad times.
While this is not recommended, it’s also very helpful. If you want to move on quickly, then it’s best to think about the bad things he did or the flaws he has instead of focusing on your sweet memories together. This is to help you think that you’re better off without him anyway.
The catch here is that for you not falling into a deep well of negativity. Remember, never dwell on what happened in the past especially if it’s an unsavory experience. Just pump yourself up and remind yourself that you’re so much happier and better now than ever before.
7. Treat yourself to an occasional binge-eat.
We know we said that it’s not entirely good to fall into a long binge-eating frenzy, but it wouldn’t hurt to treat yourself to an occasional one. Take the day off and visit your favorite restaurants, eat your favorite foods, and don’t be afraid to pig out every once in a while.
You deserve to feel full and satisfied. You also deserve to be happy even when it comes to food. Just remember to pick yourself up with the exercise once you’re done with your feast!
8. Hang out more with your friends.
Another best way to get over a break-up is to hang out with your friends. If they invite you out, don’t decline it and the best of friends will go their way to help you, drag you out of your room, and treat you to a nice day out.
Trash talk your ex with your friends if you have to and do anything to get your mind off the negative things. Have fun and enjoy while you’re still young!
Now, these are just steps to help and make you feel better about yourself. The way you move on is entirely up to you. Take all the time you need but also make sure to take care of yourself. The worst way is when you forget about yourself and allow your mind and body to rot away.
This is the situation now, you have to face it and accept it. Oftentimes, we don’t like change because we crave the stability we had with our ex-partners, but it’s time to move on. You’re a strong person and you can do it!